“You may think I’m small, but I have a universe inside my mind.” – Yoko Ono
Yes, introverts think a lot because they love to be in the universe created in their minds.
Unfortunately, staying in the universe in your mind might not get you a life partner. Because, before you find a life partner, you need to date.
If you want to start a family, you need to find a partner. And to find a partner, you need to date first.
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Fortunately, dating doesn’t always mean going to a bar or a coffee shop to meet people. With introvert dating apps, you can meet someone online before you decide to meet in person.
Since being chatty is not your strongest suit as an introvert, you can easily navigate into an online dating app.
But before you can take the conversation beyond, “Hi” you need to have an impressive bio.
Create a Bio That Tells them Who You are
To get more matches, you don’t need to be an extrovert. You may be good at something, like cracking jokes or being organized.
The first step for people to notice you online is to create an impressive bio that let them know who you are.
You can tell them what you do. These will help people to find common ground with you.
But you should not make your bio a resume. Just keep it short. Don’t write a 1,500-word article.
And when writing your bio, make sure that it’s full sentences and not the SMS shortened English.
Before you publish it, double-check your text for spelling and grammar errors. They are a huge turn-off.
Aside from telling the other person what you do, you should be clear about what you’re looking for in a partner.
It’s also a no-no to use dominating language. You don’t want to sound bossy in your bio. Thus, stop writing, “must be funny or good at cooking.”
Men love to see woman’s sense of focus and integrity.
Highlight Your Quirks
Don’t stick to uber-flattering photos. Just snap a couple of imperfectly lit selfies. These are selfies that aren’t flattering. But they highlight your real personality.
These are the photos that would definitely catch the eye of the person who might be your fiancé.
In other words, just own your quirks. Whatever makes you tick, you should highlight it.
You want to end up dating and marrying a person who appreciates your quirks instead of someone who is only attracted to your well-poised photo.
Chat with Your Match
Exchanging written messages can be easy. However, if the interaction involves chatting via a screen, it can be tricky for introverted personality types.
You can do it, of course. But you can get stuck in just exchanging witty messages without actually meeting anyone in person.
Make the First Move
Introverted personalities wait until they approach someone. However, online dating doesn’t actually work this way.
People don’t have unlimited time to chat with potential matches.
If you wait for a few days before sending a message, your potential matches might have overflowing inboxes.
Thus, if someone catches your eye, make the first move and drop a line right away. Doing so will help you establish contact. Even though you feel uncomfortable with it, just do it.
You don’t need to say the perfect opening line. Just saying, “Hey,” will do.
Keep in mind that the point of using introverted dating apps is to find someone to date. You and the other people using the apps are hoping to be asked out.
Let Them Know How You Wish to be Reached
As an introvert, communication with strangers isn’t your best quality. Thus, you shouldn’t take risks.
When you meet someone online, you need to be clearer about your preferred way of communication.
If you want to respond to a text, let them know. If you prefer a call, tell them.
Schedule to Meet
If you have made it to this step, then it’s good progress. You would feel that you want to crawl into bed reading a book.
You might check your phone a day before the date hoping that the other person would cancel it at the last minute.
During the first date, don’t agonize over your clothing. You should also avoid researching ideas for random conversation topics.
And never Google the person you’re about to meet.
Instead, you should spend your free time a day before your date doing something you like. It can be listening to your favorite podcast or cuddling with your pet. It will help you feel relaxed.
When you’re on a date, you should avoid talking about being an introvert. Your personality can give you the listening skills to become a great conversationalist. You’re a joy to be around.
Your first date must be treated as practice. In that case, you must not have the attitude that if this date doesn’t work then you’ll be alone forever.
Don’t think that way.
Instead, think of it as practice. That is, if the first date doesn’t pan out, then it’s an experience that you can learn.
Keep in mind that most people go on several dates before meeting their soulmates. If you mess up on your first date, it might not matter in the end.
Viewing your first date as practice will help you learn something. You might realize that you talk fast or that you enjoy your date’s trips.
Notice How You Feel After the First Date
As you head home, use your skills to note your feelings. Did your cheeks hurt after smiling?
After checking in with your physical sensations, it will be easier for you to know whether you like to see the person again.
When you have decided, you should be bold. Tell the person how you felt about the first date.
You’re better off telling the other person how you feel sooner, instead of later. If they are interested, they will ask you out for a second date.
If not, then they’ll say no. It does hurt. But at least you know that they’re not into you. Asking them how they feel about you won’t stop you from wondering.
On the other hand, if you’re not interested to go on a second date with the person, you have to say it.
Get Back to Online Dating
If the first date didn’t pan out, you should get back on the horse. Always remember that dates don’t always work out the first time.
Rejection sucks. It might bother you but not for long. But always remember that you don’t want to be with a person who doesn’t want to be with you.
Over to You
What can you add to this guide about online dating for introverts? Let us know your experiences with your first date.
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